Dating someone who has herpes
But, rest assured, with a little background knowledge, and some research of your own, you will be better equipped to tackle those questions. For me, the talk – after the fact – my girlfriend at the time, and still current, called me up and said we need to talk. First and foremost, I had to decide if ‘the juice was worth the squeeze’, as I like to refer to it as, or in laymen’s terms, is this woman worth continuing a relationship with now that I know she has an STD?Instantly, my mind started going a mile a minute: is she pregnant, was I terrible in bed, does she have an STD? Guys/Gals, do some thinking and research on this one. Would you consider dating someone who informed you that they genital herpes? I say that with the realization that I don't know just *how* difficult it is to prevent transmission, and whether that means there can't ever be spontaneous sex.And if it seemed like too big a hurdle to overcome, then we could go our separate ways. One of my best friends has had to deal with that for over 20 years.DO NOT just settle for his/her side of the story and what they tell you. I have gone through "the conversation" a million times in my mind.I think she said she takes the medication that is used during an outbreak, not daily.
If ok, want to jump on my soapbox for a second, if anyone reading this has herpes, do the right thing, let people know. As far as genital herpes goes, we’re talking 20% of the population.Why the heck would I want to risk having to mess with cootchie sores for the rest of my life? She has been married for 20 years, and with her husband for years before that.They are careful during outbreaks, which she can always feel coming on, and her husband has not gotten herpes in all those years.It’s not that he’s shy or insecure about his looks.Instead, what keeps this 27-year-old from approaching the cute girl across the room is a set of hypotheticals that most people don’t deal with.“My mind runs ahead to ‘the disclosure talk’ and then all the way down to, ‘What if we have sex and what if I give it to her?